I have always been organised, independent and an action-taker. However, during my second divorce, when I separated from my son’s father, the stress, uncertainty and emotional impact became too much. I was suddenly navigating single parenting while trying to manage a completely new list of forms, finances, appointments and difficult decisions.

My health suffered. I couldn’t eat and lost an unhealthy amount of weight. I needed medication to sleep and had to take time away from work, which affected me financially. Most painfully, I couldn’t give my son the focus and presence he needed from me. My own parents had separated when I was the same age as he was, and I still remembered what it felt like to no longer feel important and to be caught in the middle of their conflict. Knowing what he might be experiencing made the guilt unbearable.

Despite how difficult that time was, my son’s father and I finalised our financial settlement and parenting arrangements within six months. I know this gave our son greater stability and allowed us both to plan for the future. The process could easily have become far longer, more stressful and more costly.

A few years later, I went through my third separation, which involved separating property and a business. This separation was toxic and traumatic, but it also happened during a year filled with several other deeply distressing experiences involving loss, serious family illnesses and circumstances completely outside my control. It felt as though one difficult event followed another, making it the most challenging year of my life.

However, that year also became a profound turning point. I began questioning what I truly wanted, how I wanted to live and who I wanted to become. It led me through a period of deep personal growth, self-discovery and, in many ways, enlightenment.

I began journalling and visualising the future I wanted to create. I became more connected to my intuition, more aware of what felt right for me and more confident in trusting where it was leading me. I handed my share of the business to my former partner and made a commitment to myself. Whatever I did next would use my skills and lived experiences, reflect who I truly was and allow me to make a genuine difference.

The idea for Separation PA became clear when I met another capable but extremely busy mum who was going through a separation. She already had emotional support. What she desperately needed was her time back. She needed help understanding processes and forms, clarity about what needed to be done and, most importantly, someone supportive to do it with her.

That was my “aha” moment. This kind of comprehensive, hands-on support simply didn’t exist.

I created Separation PA to give separated parents the support I wish I’d had. It provides one organised place containing practical information, checklists, templates and resources, with flexible personal assistance available when someone needs more than a toolkit. It means having someone understanding by your side who can help make an overwhelming process feel more manageable.

Today, I help parents organise documents, understand their options, prepare for professional appointments and work through practical tasks step by step, without judgement or added pressure. One of my clients reached out to me after being in financial and parenting limbo for six years.

Although agreements had been reached, while juggling parenting, a business and overwhelming circumstances, the process had become too difficult to complete alone. All she needed was some structured, hands-on support and someone patient to guide her through the process step by step. After years of feeling stuck, everything was finally completed and she was able to move forward and make plans for her future.

My expertise combines lived experience with skills in business management, administration, research, planning, training and practical problem-solving. I don’t provide legal, financial or therapeutic advice. I help parents feel supported while becoming organised, informed and better prepared to work with qualified professionals.

My mission is for Separation PA to become a trusted nationwide first step, helping parents reduce stress, conflict and unnecessary costs, regain valuable time and remain focused on their children.

Where it’s safe and appropriate, Today I help co-parents work through practical matters together as a child-focused team.

You don’t need to have everything organised or know exactly what support you need before reaching out. We can meet you wherever you are and work out what comes next together.